It's a question we get all the time: "when am I supposed to be mailing this stuff!?" The world of wedding planning is so full of unknowns and there's such a huge learning curve for most of us. Don't worry, we've got you covered!
Save the Dates should go in the mail approximately six to eight months before your wedding. If your venue & date are firm and you are planning a destination wedding, we sometimes send them even sooner. Keep in mind that sooner isn't always better, though, as guests can't generally book flights or accommodations more than a year in advance.
Invitations go in the mail six to eight weeks before your wedding date and no more than ten weeks before. Again, while it seems like "the sooner the better," you'll actually want to send these close enough to the wedding date that it stays at the forefront of people's minds. If you've sent a save the date, odds are good that they've already made plans to attend or not anyway, so stick with the established guidelines for sending these.
Responses should be requested roughly three to four weeks before your wedding date. The further out you try to force people to commit to a "yay" or "nay," the less reliable your list will be. You may get "yes" when people aren't really sure due to work, etc., and you may get "no" for the same reason.
We hope you find this information helpful! Please drop us a note if you have a wedding paper or etiquette question you'd like answered.